After doing copious amounts of research and asking all the mums we know aged between 25 to 89, we’ve listed the things mothers really want this Sunday.

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1. A handwritten note
With the advent of online card sites that will print, write and post your card, many mums have said they’d rather just have a handwritten note talking about the fond memories you shared as son/daughter and mum. Think about the good times, and jot down your appreciation for her. It doesn’t have to be on fancy paper, or written by a calligrapher. It just has to come from your heart.

2. Some pamper time
Mums never seem to stop working – it’s a thankless situation to be in sometimes! So some pamper time alone could be a nice way to say you appreciate the effort she put in to raising her family, and that you know she needs a break. Sites such as Wahanda and Groupon offer discounted massages all over the country.

3. A tranquil morning
However old you mum is, there’s a good job her sleeping patterns changed ever since her kids came along. If it wasn’t feeding time, it as packing lunches for school or making sure you had everything ready for exams. If you live nearby, treat your mum to breakfast in bed. If you have an iPad let her pick a film (Netflix and SkyGo are good options here) or catch up on some television. Don’t ask her any questions about what she wants to do, just let her be.

4. Time alone, or time together
The younger mums we spoke to said all they wanted is some time alone, and to be able to have a bath without an audience! The older mums wanted to spend time as a family remembering the little memories that brought you joy. If you’re treating a young mum, step three above is a good start, but you might want to think about sending her to a day spa, or taking the kids out of the house for the day.

If your mum is older make an effort to visit her, perhaps share a family meal together if you can’t be there all day.

5. A chat
Once children grow up and lead their own lives, some mums felt their children never really saw them as friends. Taking time to wander in the park and sit and have a chat meant a lot for most of the mums we spoke to. Gifts can be easy to buy, but bonding time doesn’t have a price. All it takes is some time.

6. Accessorize her hobby.
Does she love to cook? Is she a keen gardener? Perhaps she loves to swim. Whatever your mum enjoys, buy a gift that says you appreciate her hobbies. Flowers are lovely, but it’s easy to pick and bunch and thrust them in her hands while whisking her out for a meal. Gardening gloves, a new baking set or some swanky swimming goggles show you pay attention and care about what matters to her.

So there are our tips. What have you done for your mum on Mother’s Day?